ortho v. meta v. para NMR for fluorotoluene

Fluorotoluene isomers have published spectra you can track down. SDBS might also be a good resource.

Generically though, it can be more difficult to determine ortho vs meta in a "new" molecule. Often you have to carefully parse the peaks and determine J values, use 2D NMR, and just generally try harder.

para vs others: think about the symmetry in the molecule and should be fairly obvious

ortho vs meta: the splitting patter in 1H is going to be quite different.

Did you check Molbase.com

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I understand that the c13 NMR would have a different number of peaks between the para and ortho/meta compounds, but how would one distinguish the ortho/meta compounds using either c13 or 1h NMR?

One good resource for general NMR information is CHM 605 at the University of Wisconsin, Department of Chemistry.
https://www.chem.wisc.edu/areas/reich/chem605/

If you have an IR, the aromatic overtones just under 2000 cm-1 can distinguish o-m-p